A father refused to pay for his daughter's wedding at the last minute. And he had a really good reason for it.

 

When you live with one person and every day you feel that your relationship is getting worse and worse, this is a sign that it is time to end this relationship. But sometimes the fear of loneliness is much stronger than the desire for happiness, so we often get involved in unnecessary relationships.

It's not always easy to find the courage to escape a destructive relationship. But things change when the situation reaches a boiling point.

A man shared his story on Reddit and received support from thousands of strangers. Here's what he wrote:

– My daughter recently wanted to get married. Planning a wedding takes up most of her time and her mother’s time (I don’t call her wife because we are not married, even though we have lived together for 10 years).

Last year, my stepdaughter graduated from university. I paid 40 thousand dollars for her education. She doesn't have a job and now lives with us, during her studies and continues to live there. I even bought her a car after she graduated from school.

Her biological father would occasionally intrude into our lives. He didn't pay any child support and he wasn't supportive of his daughter at all times. But she loved him and wanted him to be a part of her life and I can't blame her for that.

The wedding venue was designed for a maximum of 250 people. I gave a list of 20 acquaintances that I would like to see at the event, since I am paying for this wedding. I asked for invitations to be sent to her mother's wedding.

On Saturday I saw a friend I had invited and asked if he would be coming to the celebration. He replied that he had seen the wedding announcement but had not received an invitation. Looking at the announcement, I did not see his name either, only the names of her mother and biological father.

I was also surprised to learn that none of my friends were invited.

As it turns out, there just wasn't enough room. It's hard to put into words how angry I am.

The next day we had a Sunday lunch with future family, which I was not warned about.

I don't think I've ever felt more humiliated. I was silent for a few minutes, trying to collect myself. As soon as I realized I could speak, I said I wanted to make a toast. I don't remember exactly what I said, but the gist of it was this:

"I have had the pleasure of being a part of this family for the past ten years. At this moment, I am very grateful to the bride and groom because they opened my eyes to something very important. They showed me that my position in this family is not at all what I thought it was."

I wanted to become a real support if necessary. But instead I took the position of an ATM that counts and gives out money, nothing more.

Since then you have a new "benefactor", including at the ceremony, I waive my financial obligations in favor of this father. I congratulate the future newlyweds and wish them happiness on the path they have chosen. Now get out of my house!

I ended this note with a toast. Do you think that's selfish? I had to get rid of the wedding when they didn't even hesitate to refuse to invite my guests?

I canceled all the engagements and managed to get some of the money back. I transferred all the money from the joint account to my personal account. If they want the biological father to sit at the head of the table, let him pay for the wedding.

I didn't expect to get such support here. I can't promise that I'll write about how the wedding ended, I don't want to think about it.

If you think you can't appreciate a relationship, that probably won't change.

People don't change overnight, so this person did the right thing by cutting all ties with the family.